There you are, perusing the makeup aisle or if you are like me, trying to decide if you want the feminine hygiene product with wings (true story), when you see them: the ex, the ex’s new squeeze or that person you just can’t stand. Awkward! Oh, you are in a pickle. Do you grab the first thing you see and make your exit? Do you pretend they don’t exist with the obvious ignore? Or, do you make your stand, be cordial and acknowledge their presence? Here is a rundown of some possible options:
- Duck and run! You know this one, it’s the one where you were lucky enough to spot them before they saw you and you were able to make a clean getaway.
- The fake out. Your cell phone conveniently appears in your hand and you begin an animated conversation about how amazing last night was.
- Stare down. This one is a toughie. It could go a couple different ways. Scenario one: you make eye contact and awkwardly stare at each other for ten seconds while you both process what you should do. You ultimately turn on your heel and stalk away. Scenario two: you make eye contact and awkwardly stare at each other for ten seconds and the both of you try to talk at the same time. Double awkward. If you really hate the person, this is your chance to chuck something at them and run. Just kidding! We are all adults here, don’t tell me the thought hasn’t crossed your mind a time or two. Ultimately, you sheepishly say hello and continue on with your shopping…..at the other side of the store.
- High school rerun. Perhaps the worst type of encounter you can have with a past person of importance. Why you ask? Oh, that would be the super bubbly babble about everything you have been up since the last time you saw them with a smidgen of I still miss you thrown in for good measure (surely none of you fit this category?).
It is bound to happen sooner or later. We live in Southern Oregon. Well, unless you just moved here from somewhere across the states or an ocean. In that case, congratulations! You have a clean slate. But really, the question is how should you work through these inevitable situations? You could always try one of the above options, but, what if you were able to walk through any aisle, go to any place and not have to worry about who you may or may not see? You need to be in a place with your life where you feel good about you, are OK with knowing that you had some unsuccessful attempts at long term relationships or even friendships, and are ready to keep your best foot forward. If you are there, you don’t need to try any of the options above. You can simply face anyone with a smile, exude confidence and show the world life doesn’t get you down and there is no need to hide.
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By Kimberley Ann, for Invitation Only Matchmaking